Melanie Delorme was a content English teacher, wife, mother, sister andÂ friend when without warning she gained the title of bereaved parent when herÂ eight-year-old son Garrett was accidentally killed in a hunting accident. HerÂ road to healing brought her to write her first book. Melanie is involved with
her local chapter of Compassionate Friends and is passionate about offeringÂ hope to other bereaved parents. She is currently living on a ranch in SouthernÂ Saskatchewan with her husband, Gerry, and their two children.Â
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you might be feeling that the answer to this question is no, never, absolutelyÂ not; be assured that not only is it possible for you to survive, but you areÂ also strong enough to thrive after this devastating tragedy.
only people who truly understand your pain are other bereaved parents. Melanie
is one of those parents and, in After the Flowers Die, she offersÂ encouragement, hope and honest suggestions for how you can once againÂ experience joy.Â
may experience, such as anger, bitterness, birthdays, Christmas, hope, signs,
and more. If you have lost a child and are feeling hurt and lost, this book is
a great starting point for you to acknowledge your loss, celebrate your childâ€™s
life and find hope.
Every time I wanted to scream at someone, it was warrantedâ€”in my mind. However,Â what would it have gained me? Would it have made me feel better? Maybe for aÂ minute. But unless it brought my son back, it would not have made me trulyÂ happy, and to be the source of another person’s hurt was not going to make meÂ feel better.
who failed to stop at a stop sign. This mother spent three years living in a
state of rage. She attended every court hearing the driver faced, insisting
that he be jailed for life. She wrote letters to her government officials
demanding that he never receive bail, and she spoke of nothing else. The courts
deemed this particular accident to be just thatâ€”an accident, and the man spent
no time in jail. We can all understand her outrage, but having that man spend
the rest of his life in jail was not going to take away her agony; it was not
going to bring her daughter back. Furthermore, that man was also going to spend
the rest of his life hurting and coping with his guilt.
with us on our daily journey. The bottom line is this: the more time you spend
angry, the less time you will spend grieving and the further away it will take
you from your memories and the further away you will be from acceptance.
she organized Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD). I It doesn’t get
much more practical than that! I’m not saying you need to become the founder of
a new organization, but perhaps you can join an existing one or simply share
your anger with others who have had similar experiences.